A word of caution about what you share here and other places

[Pedo4VR]

Please remember to separate what you write here and on other less secure forums. If you make a post here, but then share something very similar on Reddit or somewhere else, someone or AI might make a connection and your identity could be compromised. I am not trying to create paranoia, I just want my pedo brothers and sisters to be careful. For those of us who have disclosed that we have been sexually active with kids in the past or present the risk is greater.

[on the rocks]

Yep, keep those online personas siloed from each other. Don't make it easy for Big Brother to connect dots.

[nyarla]

I gave my opinion before. I feel PSC should have a share button that automatically shared posts in all social medias. Put it between preview and post just to make it funny.

[JustMe]

Yes, definitely - and take care to keep different activities separate so you don't accidental;y copy and paste in the wrong place (has happened but fortunately without consequences).

[Shady]

I mean this is a legit advice, not paranoia.

[fffanatic]

This is good advice, thank you.

[Just teaching her CPR]

Thank you so much for always giving us fellow pedos those much needed reminders and reality checks, Pedo4VR.  Looking at some of my older posts here, as well as some older notes from the early days of me accepting my pedophilia, and comparing to my current headspace, I can clearly see how much and how fast I improved and a lot of it is thanks to this forum.

I was actually going to create a very similar thread before seeing this one, but now I think just adding it here would be more suitable: NEVER tell anyone IRL you're a pedo (or even hebephile/ephebophile)! I've mentioned before about how my best friend knows I'm an ephebophile, but not pedophile: since we've grown a bit apart during the last couple of years, I noticed he has become more of a "normie". These days he said something that made it clear to me that his opinion on pedophilia and pedophile activities, even objectively harmless ones, has become significantly less favorable, more status-quo-like.

I realized that although many things about people don't change, opinions and worldviews sure can change A LOT. I still don't think he'll do anything that can harm me, but how can I be sure? It was really careless of me to think it was ok to talk about minor attraction of with him just because he's a friend...

I urge my fellows pedos here to reject the temptation of telling your friends/partners/family members/therapists about your minor attraction. The amount of pressure against it nowadays is simply insane. If one of these people, for instance, think you might do something (remember, the bar for unacceptable behavior when it comes to pedophilia nowadays is rock-bottom low), they might very well tell on you to avoid getting in trouble ("you knew about him being a pedo and didn't do anything to prevent harm from happening?")

[NotPennysBoat]

I do use my screen name at more than one place. But I share no identifying information, not even likes or dislikes that could set off alarms. And while I'd like to be more "chatty", I feel it's too risky opsec-wise.

[Lillab]

I was actually going to create a very similar thread before seeing this one, but now I think just adding it here would be more suitable: NEVER tell anyone IRL you're a pedo (or even hebephile/ephebophile)! I've mentioned before about how my best friend knows I'm an ephebophile, but not pedophile: since we've grown a bit apart during the last couple of years, I noticed he has become more of a "normie". These days he said something that made it clear to me that his opinion on pedophilia and pedophile activities, even objectively harmless ones, has become significantly less favorable, more status-quo-like.

I realized that although many things about people don't change, opinions and worldviews sure can change A LOT. I still don't think he'll do anything that can harm me, but how can I be sure? It was really careless of me to think it was ok to talk about minor attraction of with him just because he's a friend...

I urge my fellows pedos here to reject the temptation of telling your friends/partners/family members/therapists about your minor attraction. The amount of pressure against it nowadays is simply insane. If one of these people, for instance, think you might do something (remember, the bar for unacceptable behavior when it comes to pedophilia nowadays is rock-bottom low), they might very well tell on you to avoid getting in trouble ("you knew about him being a pedo and didn't do anything to prevent harm from happening?")

I mostly agree with this. I don't believe the consequences are quite as dire as people make them out to be. I've probably come out to about 30 different people through my life, in a one on one situation, and indirectly to a much bigger number. I have tested this theory over and over again, and not once has anything good ever come of it. No one is going to reciprocate. It won't help you connect with anyone. It won't help you keep anyone safe. Anything you think you could get from it, just turn to PSC instead. We are far more understanding here, and we actually know what we are talking about, at least compared to the rest of the world.

Of the people you think would be able to be reasonable, about a quarter of those really are. They will accept you for who you are, but it's not going to help you feel more connected to them, and they are going to be completely clueless about how to help support you. Another quarter, these being people who care about you, will simply face this with denial. They will try to convince you that you are mistaken, that this isn't true. They will do whatever they can to shove you back into the closet and try to pretend you never said anything. Another quarter will act supportive, but then your relationship will just wither away. They aren't going to say anything, but now you just make them feel too weird and uncomfortable and they don't want to deal with it. Finally, the last quarter will actively try to hurt you. It might be as mild as just talking shit about you behind your back, or it might be quite extreme trying to terrorize and destroy your life, and everything you care about. Just one of these can be utterly devastating.

And as mentioned, people's opinions and worldviews don't stay consistent. A single person might jump between these groups from time to time. Your relationship with them won't always stay strong. It only takes a moment for someone to do something that they can't undo, like a spurned lover. I suppose on the plus side, now I am mostly immune to anything anyone might want to do to me, but even with that, I've gone back into the closet, mostly for the sake of the people around me.

[Pedo4VR]

I was actually going to create a very similar thread before seeing this one, but now I think just adding it here would be more suitable: NEVER tell anyone IRL you're a pedo (or even hebephile/ephebophile)! I've mentioned before about how my best friend knows I'm an ephebophile, but not pedophile: since we've grown a bit apart during the last couple of years, I noticed he has become more of a "normie". These days he said something that made it clear to me that his opinion on pedophilia and pedophile activities, even objectively harmless ones, has become significantly less favorable, more status-quo-like.

I realized that although many things about people don't change, opinions and worldviews sure can change A LOT. I still don't think he'll do anything that can harm me, but how can I be sure? It was really careless of me to think it was ok to talk about minor attraction of with him just because he's a friend...

I urge my fellows pedos here to reject the temptation of telling your friends/partners/family members/therapists about your minor attraction. The amount of pressure against it nowadays is simply insane. If one of these people, for instance, think you might do something (remember, the bar for unacceptable behavior when it comes to pedophilia nowadays is rock-bottom low), they might very well tell on you to avoid getting in trouble ("you knew about him being a pedo and didn't do anything to prevent harm from happening?")

I mostly agree with this. I don't believe the consequences are quite as dire as people make them out to be. I've probably come out to about 30 different people through my life, in a one on one situation, and indirectly to a much bigger number. I have tested this theory over and over again, and not once has anything good ever come of it. No one is going to reciprocate. It won't help you connect with anyone. It won't help you keep anyone safe. Anything you think you could get from it, just turn to PSC instead. We are far more understanding here, and we actually know what we are talking about, at least compared to the rest of the world.

Of the people you think would be able to be reasonable, about a quarter of those really are. They will accept you for who you are, but it's not going to help you feel more connected to them, and they are going to be completely clueless about how to help support you. Another quarter, these being people who care about you, will simply face this with denial. They will try to convince you that you are mistaken, that this isn't true. They will do whatever they can to shove you back into the closet and try to pretend you never said anything. Another quarter will act supportive, but then your relationship will just wither away. They aren't going to say anything, but now you just make them feel too weird and uncomfortable and they don't want to deal with it. Finally, the last quarter will actively try to hurt you. It might be as mild as just talking shit about you behind your back, or it might be quite extreme trying to terrorize and destroy your life, and everything you care about. Just one of these can be utterly devastating.

And as mentioned, people's opinions and worldviews don't stay consistent. A single person might jump between these groups from time to time. Your relationship with them won't always stay strong. It only takes a moment for someone to do something that they can't undo, like a spurned lover. I suppose on the plus side, now I am mostly immune to anything anyone might want to do to me, but even with that, I've gone back into the closet, mostly for the sake of the people around me.

I think this does deserve its own topic/post. It's such an important issue. Many years ago when I was under severe depression and distress I shared with my closest friend about my involvement with two girls. He accepted me and helped me through this time. However, many months later he got drunk and loudly shared my secret and two of my family members found out about me. The walls were closing in. My friend felt horrible and called to warn me the next day, but the damage was done.

So I agree, do not ever divulge that you are a pedo to a friend or family member and never ever admit to sexual involvement with a child. But I do think you can share that you are pedo with a therapist. Just don't admit to any activity, including CP consumption.

[NotPennysBoat]

So I agree, do not ever divulge that you are a pedo to a friend or family member and never ever admit to sexual involvement with a child. But I do think you can share that you are pedo with a therapist. Just don't admit to any activity, including CP consumption.

I so wish I could be out to my closest friends, but that can NEVER happen. As was said elsewhere, I'm not worried about disclosing something to a trusted friend; I'm worried about that same person mistakenly saying it where others could hear and this is not a bell you can unring. So zero people know, and I like that number.

[Pat975]

A little paranoia goes a long way.  Excellent advice.  for some of us this is standard knowledge though some may be less aware.

At my job I deal with mainly people who are less tech savvy and what is common sense for me may not be obvious to others.