A reminder to be careful with the online friends you make

[Pedo4VR]

Many moons ago I joined PSC under a different user name. I cannot even remember the user name now, but I think it had daddy in it - haha. I made a connection with another community member. Soon we were on Wickr chatting away like old girl friends. Then he started sending me CP via Wickr and providing personal information about himself, kind of inviting me to do the same. I asked him to not share this stuff, but he continued. I ended up alerting PSC about the situation and left the site for a couple of years.

This is just a reminder to be careful and never share any personal information to online strangers.

[NotPennysBoat]

Nope. I barely even mention likes and dislikes. Nothing to compromise my identity.

[Malaikah]

In most cases it's hard to trust someone you connect with online.
Even harder when it's someone you met in a pedo community.
Stay safe.

[PrimeMeridian]

It really sucks because we're already pretty much societal outcasts, so we're lonely and we crave conversation and connection and understanding from people going through similar experiences and struggles as us (unlike the outside world thinks, that struggle is NOT how to be the best "monsters" that we can possibly be). I really think we all just want to make friends, at least the people here.

The community goes out of its way to warn off those who are looking to trade media and find others to look for rare or "personal" stuff, as this is not a media site. Many of the "no-contact" people here, even in terms of media, have either given it up, never indulged, or are working to convert to stories or even imagination alone. I would definitely be wary of anyone that would immediately start pushing for trades. Why are they assuming you have anything to trade?

For better or worse, supposing you do -- that alone is incriminating. The non-zero chance that you're talking to law enfocement would make your blood run cold if you pause to think about it (and you should, as it may prevent you from doing anything impulsive).

I hate that we have to so isolate ourselves even from each other to some degree in this way, but I think that if we want to be truly safe individually, we pretty much have to until our culture does some shifting back around to less stigma about sex and sexual non-conformity in general. Once the stigma about sex in general drops, then the stigma about normal people's sexuality drops, then comes the drop in stigma of sex work and other orientations, etc. II think the easing up on consentual AF/YF stuff may come naturally with that, sort of a return to how things were in civilzations before Abrahamic religions, during which rape was always abhorred but age was a far more fluid thing in the concept of consent. Socratic/Platonic Mentorship kind of love, the sort that Oscar Wilde described ... or tender guardianship and almost chaste admiration from afar along the lines of Lewis Carrol .... it may all become less hunted down and universally loathed in decades to come.

For now, though, anonymous we must be. Even with each other.

[Pedo4VR]

It really sucks because we're already pretty much societal outcasts, so we're lonely and we crave conversation and connection and understanding from people going through similar experiences and struggles as us (unlike the outside world thinks, that struggle is NOT how to be the best "monsters" that we can possibly be). I really think we all just want to make friends, at least the people here.

The community goes out of its way to warn off those who are looking to trade media and find others to look for rare or "personal" stuff, as this is not a media site. Many of the "no-contact" people here, even in terms of media, have either given it up, never indulged, or are working to convert to stories or even imagination alone. I would definitely be wary of anyone that would immediately start pushing for trades. Why are they assuming you have anything to trade?

For better or worse, supposing you do -- that alone is incriminating. The non-zero chance that you're talking to law enfocement would make your blood run cold if you pause to think about it (and you should, as it may prevent you from doing anything impulsive).

I hate that we have to so isolate ourselves even from each other to some degree in this way, but I think that if we want to be truly safe individually, we pretty much have to until our culture does some shifting back around to less stigma about sex and sexual non-conformity in general. Once the stigma about sex in general drops, then the stigma about normal people's sexuality drops, then comes the drop in stigma of sex work and other orientations, etc. II think the easing up on consentual AF/YF stuff may come naturally with that, sort of a return to how things were in civilzations before Abrahamic religions, during which rape was always abhorred but age was a far more fluid thing in the concept of consent. Socratic/Platonic Mentorship kind of love, the sort that Oscar Wilde described ... or tender guardianship and almost chaste admiration from afar along the lines of Lewis Carrol .... it may all become less hunted down and universally loathed in decades to come.

For now, though, anonymous we must be. Even with each other.

I love your reply here PrimeMeridian. I craved connection (and still do) with other pedophiles like you. I think park of it is connecting with someone who knows your true authentic self. No hiding in the shadows or being ashamed for who you are.

I tried so hard for years to make a personal connection like this, at times taking really dumb risks. I came so, so close to getting outed and destroyed. I had met someone online and started talking to him frequently on Wickr. He was wealthy and involved with others who had kids and invited me to join their little network. I was very intrigued to say the least. He actually sent me his full, very detailed resume. The problem.... none of his information checked out. He was a senior executive, yet was not on Linkedin or anywhere else - nothing came up after extensive searching. Ultimately, I told him I would fly to his city and we could meet somewhere anomalously before I ever shared my information. He would not agree to this and I cut off communication.

I think the aim of these people is to blackmail you. Once they identify who you are. they can threaten to show the world the posts you made or copies of your communication with them, etc. In my case, a lot of people already know I am a pedophile. This kind of blow would hurt me, but not be fatal. For others, their world would fall apart if they were exposed.

[thatchattyfem]

Great advice!

I remembered freaking out when chatting with someone, who guessed the area where I lived. I re-read our chat and realized I had used a lot of regional slang words.

[Pedo4VR]

Great advice!

I remembered freaking out when chatting with someone, who guessed the area where I lived. I re-read our chat and realized I had used a lot of regional slang words.

I'm mindful of that as well, but I am not sure if LEA is interested in identifying me as much as some person who wants to blackmail me. Clearly if I was running a large CP site or selling access to girls then LEA would be using their resources to get me. So I don't mind that people know the region I'm in. Maybe this is dumb.

[girlsmom]

It seems that anything on the dark web scares me. I love this site but am still cautious about the information that I share. I have met only a small handful of people from here. Not an actual meeting of course but just in PMs. Everyone seems nice here but you just never know. Downloading CP just seems too risky for the value of looking at pics.

[Just teaching her CPR]

Absolutely. And it's not only LEA, regular people and even other pedophiles can try to throw you under the bus for whatever reason. I learned the hard way that someone won't automatically want the best interest of another person just because they belong to the same group. And this is especially true in the case of pedophiles, since the hatred against us is so intense that many unfortunately internalize it, hating both themselves and other pedophiles.

It seems that anything on the dark web scares me. I love this site but am still cautious about the information that I share. I have met only a small handful of people from here. Not an actual meeting of course but just in PMs. Everyone seems nice here but you just never know. Downloading CP just seems too risky for the value of looking at pics.

One of the underrated bad things about being a pedophile is how we're pushed towards the margins of society and end up having to share spaces with violent criminals and people who are into way worse stuff than child love.

Do people seriously believe that an adult who wants to kiss and caress a little girl is on the same tier as a hitman or someone who's into snuff? Never mind, they actually think the former is much worse 😓

[Lillab]

I hate that we have to so isolate ourselves even from each other to some degree in this way, but I think that if we want to be truly safe individually, we pretty much have to until our culture does some shifting back around to less stigma about sex and sexual non-conformity in general.
...
For now, though, anonymous we must be. Even with each other.

Yeah, it does suck. At least there is a lot we can do with each other still. We can connect in most of the ways that really matter. We can message each other, process our emotions, fantasize together, and build connections. It does suck that we can't enjoy hanging out with each other on less secure platforms, which means we can't call each other, we can't go play some Call of Duty together, or enjoy other benign activities with our like minded friends. It does sound fun to watch CP together with someone in person. So yeah, it's tough, it sucks, but I am still grateful for the connections we can still make.

[NickTheManWithFantasies]

I have a friend of mine who is also a pedo. But he's the person who would rather just watch CP, than think about real intercourse with minors. He is almost the same age as me, and we are close enough to play videogames together when we both have free time for that, have been friends since highschool age.
Yet, up to this day, we still can easily talk jokes about childporn, memes about "uooh cunny" and stuff. I like this guy, dont want this friendship to over.

[Pat975]

I'd be leery of anyone sharing too much information.  Either they're naïve or law enforcement encouraging yo to share identifying information.  Either way a security risk.

As much as I'd very much like to meet some of the people behind the aliases here we all know way too risky.

[JoshFin]

So far in my short journey I have chatted with many people and most of them are usually just addicts looking to trade, shady blokes and imposters. But I had few connections that were genuine but one way or other could not continue.

One person I got really friendly with and trusted for what it was worth. We used to share our thoughts on topic, our struggles and yes fantasies too. Eventually these fantasies increasingly involved a young close relative of theirs. It got to the point they began sharing normal images of that close young relative with some censoring to mask identity. They never asked or expected anything in return (I was always clear that I don't share personal media or expected any). With almost daily interactions I also learned that they were struggling with depression and had struggling marital life. I tried to help as much as possible but felt I was just making things worse.

During one of these chat sessions they chose to share normal images of their young close relative without any masking and we had lot of fun fantasizing around them creating naughty scenarios and all sorts of stuff for few weeks. But then something changed and they began showing pangs of guilt and paranoia and we slowly stopped sharing our pedo fantasies and switched to 'normal' stuff and that was not nearly as much fun. Our chitchat slowly died down and one day they just contacted to make me give all kinds of assurances about not sharing the images they shared and deleting them in case I had them saved. I also learned their life-partner had some sort of accident or was sick which sort of explained the situation. Whatever it was I miss the whole thing and must admit I might have bungled it up by not being helpful enough for their situation. Wish I was equipped for it.

[Pat975]

So far in my short journey I have chatted with many people and most of them are usually just addicts looking to trade, shady blokes and imposters. But I had few connections that were genuine but one way or other could not continue.

I've had a TOX or Session ID in my signature on here but mainly got contacted by addicts wanting to trade while I'm seeking connections.

One person I got really friendly with and trusted for what it was worth. We used to share our thoughts on topic, our struggles and yes fantasies too. Eventually these fantasies increasingly involved a young close relative of theirs. It got to the point they began sharing normal images of that close young relative with some censoring to mask identity. They never asked or expected anything in return (I was always clear that I don't share personal media or expected any). With almost daily interactions I also learned that they were struggling with depression and had struggling marital life. I tried to help as much as possible but felt I was just making things worse.

Images masked or not it's too easy these days for AI to identify people and locations based on backgrounds.  Which is why I have a 100% no pics policy.