What kind of pedo are you?

[fffanatic]

I probably have long term adult relationship issues because every woman I am inside, I am fantasizing about them being a 12, 13 year old. This is sadly (?) why I prefer my adult woman as petite as possible, or at least have some feature of youth - young face, breasts that never got past the mound stage. Things like that.

Absolutely partial to this kind of women as well. But I found just very few of those I could date or be involved with.

[NotPennysBoat]

I'm a MAP, no contact.

Do you think one of the conservative, not active options would apply to you? If not and you want to give me some more detail about your reasoning and I can add in another option!

I chose "Conservative not active - due to physical/emotional harm caused to the child"

[Grizzly_Bare]

I'm a MAP, no contact.

Do you think one of the conservative, not active options would apply to you? If not and you want to give me some more detail about your reasoning and I can add in another option!

I chose "Conservative not active - due to physical/emotional harm caused to the child"

Thanks NotPennysBoat! I leaned towards that one too. I know a lot of people have talked about this before on this forum but I think that sex with children can do more harm than good, especially for the younger ones as their bodies may not be ready for that kind of experience.

[EllieLover]

Thanks for sharing EllieLover! I am assuming you are in the 'conservative not active due to discovery harm group'. Also, interested to know how you managed to massage your pedo identity in your friend group to make it a running joke, I feel like I could never even come close to the topic with people I know as I have no idea how they will react.

It's partly to do with living in one of the most sexually progressive countries on the planet, so the stigma barrier is a LOT lower. Generally it's recognized that teenagers are sexual creatures and that, while not acceptable to act on, men do find younger teenage girls attractive. Age gaps are also much more accepted here, or at least less frowned upon, than in other parts of the world.

The other part is simple confidence and the tone of delivery. Among friends and coworkers I'm the guy who makes inappropriate jokes and comments ALL the time. But I always make them very obviously tongue in cheek, and I'm always very careful who I make them to. There's a time and place for this stuff, and knowing when to keep your mouth shut is half the battle.

There's a very powerful social technique called 'agree and amplify', which basically teaches you to disarm almost any situation or accusation by first confidently agreeing with it, and then amplifying the original statement to make it even worse (with a smile and a nod). It's one of the best, if not the best technique I've ever learned, as it essentially allows you to be blatantly honest while disarming the situation under the guise of a joke or banter. It even works on one of my cute 18 year old co-workers who is a self proclaimed feminist, but I even get her to laugh when I make a joke about her tits, and outside of work we're actually pretty good friends.

Of course this only works up to a point. Staring at young teenagers is frowned upon, but deep down every guy gets it, even if they can't open say so. If you try making a running joke about wanting to bang a 6 year old things won't end so well for you.

[Shady]

Question: What kind of pedo are you?
Answer: Look at my name, bro.

[thatchattyfem]

I'm pro-contact and active. BUT............and I have said this before, consent from the boys I go with is VERY enthusiastic! If there was even the slightest bit of doubt, then no.

[BareBuns-F]

I'm pro-contact and active. BUT............and I have said this before, consent from the boys I go with is VERY enthusiastic! If there was even the slightest bit of doubt, then no.

Similar to the above, I fall under "pro-contact and active".  I'm all for being hands-on and engaged, but only when everyone is clearly and confidently on board.  I don't move forward unless the vibe is unmistakably mutual.  There have been a few occasions when I've stepped back because a boy has hesitated.